You are unhappy with your life and you know you must make some changes.
Are you the type of person who can take a good look at yourself with an honest eye and recognize the choices you must make?
Can you honestly look at the options you have to change your life and change it? If you can, then you know you have to take a long look at what direction you are going to go and start making changes today.
You have to find something that will motivate you to make those changes. What would motivate you? More money? Better working conditions? Better grades in school?
Maybe you are overweight and you realize that the exercise you do in Martial Arts is not enough to take off that weight, so you must commit to start eating properly.
As a Black Belt, you can be honest in evaluating your life and you are self-motivated.