No matter how many good things you do or how many bad things you do, every person you meet in life will judge you differently. If you should receive disapproval from one person, which you perceive as rejection, it does not spread like the plague. One rejection will never become an epidemic or a lifetime of rejections.

As a Black Belt, you know that criticism and disapproval can erode your self-esteem only if you buy into it as being an “End All” event. With the Black Belt Attitude, you will make mistakes, you will be criticized, and you will receive disapproval.

However, you will always understand that it is not rejection, only a learning experience.

Understanding Criticism and Disapproval:

  1. Subjective Judgments:

    • Everyone you meet will have a different perspective and judgment about you.
    • Disapproval from one person does not mean universal rejection.

  2. Self-Esteem Protection:

    • Criticism can only harm your self-esteem if you allow it to.
    • See disapproval as feedback rather than an ultimate verdict on your worth.

  3. Learning from Feedback:

    • View criticism as a chance to learn and improve.
    • Understand that making mistakes is part of growth and development.

Embracing the Black Belt Attitude:

  1. Resilience:

    • A Black Belt knows that setbacks are temporary and not definitive.
    • Bounce back from criticism stronger and more determined.

  2. Positive Mindset:

    • Maintain a positive outlook even in the face of disapproval.
    • Focus on your strengths and achievements rather than dwelling on negatives.

  3. Continuous Improvement:

    • Use feedback to identify areas for improvement.
    • Strive for excellence while accepting that perfection is unattainable.

By adopting the Black Belt Attitude, you can navigate life's criticisms and disapprovals with grace and resilience, turning every negative encounter into an opportunity for growth.